Monday, 22 June 2015

Attitude vs personality

Heyy lovelies,

I have been away from my blog for a few months now, I guess I really needed that break and I am back with hopes to be more regular and work harder at trying to keep this space alive. I stumbled across this old draft that I had written last year and I feel like I should share it anyway as I'm sure many can relate to it.

Growing up, I've seen life pass me by. For many different reason that is. Well for starters, looking back at just how my life was last year, I can see a huge difference in the person I was.

My morals however have not changed one bit, if anything, they are now stronger than ever. I am still the girl I always was but I guess that now I just don't care about a lot of things anymore.

It is so strange how people I've know for a very long time accuse me of "changing". Well yeah damn right I've changed! I don't put up with any of people's crap and I now find myself saying what I really think. I ain't got time to pretend that I like your dress, If you ask me, then I'm going to tell you. It's as simple as that!

So for some reason, this thought brought me to the realization that we all have a personality and an attitude which are two completely different things.

"My personality is who I am, my attitude depends on who I'm with"

So many people seem to confuse the two and call each other "fake" or whatever else they come up with as an insult in today's society!
It's just frustrating to see "friends" come up to me and make me feel as though it is wrong of me to do something I never used to before or give me weird looks if I decide to do my own thing without caring what they think of me.

The thing is, if you're cool with me, then I'm cool with you.
If you are being rude and saying things about me behind my back don't expect me to pretend to be okay with you.
I'm just saying.
I don't have time to pretend to like you.

Yes, I'm a nice person. I always have been and I will always will be! But if you treat me a certain way, don't think that I will just put up with it and pretend that it is okay for you to do so because newsflash... it really isn't.

I have one personality and that's who I am. The quiet, shy and at times crazy girl who just does her thing but my attitude depends on who I'm with.

To people who know me personally, they would find this post quite strange as I never really express anything apart from sarcasm and a whole lot of jokes.
But I just felt like it had to be said because I know so many people who feel the same and who can relate to this.

My answer whenever I am asked reasons for my actions is "I don't need to explain myself " and I stand by my words. Put yourself in somebody else's shoes and try to understand why they act the way they do. It could simply be different morals to you or maybe past experiences have affected the way they react to a situation. Everyone is different. You already know that.

Someone who doesn't like you yet is nice to you isn't fake, they were just brought up to be polite. But if you are rude to them then you should expect them to treat you the same way.

These words had me thinking for a little bit as to "wow sometimes I got guts and sometimes I feel bad for everything that I do" ....seriously with me, I never know haha
Just remember to stay true to yourself and do what YOU feel is right. Not what everyone else thinks of you.

Lots of Love,
Karine xx